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Maxine Waters is the aging member of Congress y’all should be worshiping instead of Bernie fucking Sanders
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If you claim to be a feminist and you shame girls for wanting to do traditional things like take their husband’s last name or be a house wife then you are doing it all completely wrong.
Feminism isn’t an elite group who defeats gender norms, it’s a group who accepts ALL women’s choices.
I will reblog this every single time I see it.
OK, so I have lots of thinky thoughts on this and I’ve seen this post enough that I really need to express them. I’m sorry in advance for my long-winded rambling.
First of all, I agree with this sentiment 100%. No one should shame anyone for ANY of their life choices, unless those choices are cruel and/or harmful to others. One of my best friends got married a few years back, and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I happily accepted. We’ve been friends for 20 years, and so she absolutely KNOWS my opinions and thoughts on a range of gender issues. My friend had a super-traditional wedding and took her husband’s last name. I imagine if she’d cared about my opinion on that matter, she would have asked for it. She didn’t, so I didn’t offer it. I’ve never offered it, and don’t imagine I ever will. What matters is that her husband is a lovely guy and they are absolutely equals as partners and parents.
I have another friend who cannot WAIT to be a stay-at-home mom. We’ve been friends for almost 10 years, and this has always been her dream. She adores the domestic arts and is good at them. She’s also great with kids. Her fiance makes enough money for them to live (modestly but comfortably) on one income, and she just told me they’re going to try for a pregnancy soon. I am so freaking excited for her—she’s going to get to do her dream job! What could be better than that?
So, yes. On an individual basis, we support each other and don’t try and impose the way that we want to live on others. That is a matter of basic good will and respect. But! Yes, there is a but. But this whole concept of “choice feminism” has a really dark side that I don’t think is talked about nearly enough. There is a reason why the practice of a woman automatically taking her husband’s last name bothers me as a general practice. There is a reason why the assumption that if one parent in a heterosexual pairing is going to stay home with the kids, it should be the mom. These opinions don’t exist in a vacuum, and on more than one occasion, I have felt pressured to abandon any and all critical thinking on social issues because choice.
Personally, I think it is really fucked up that a woman taking her husband’s last name is still the default in this culture. That a man choosing to do the same would be considered bizarre at best and a proof that he was whipped at worst. That when women choose to keep their last names, their children often automatically get their husband’s last name anyway, making many women feel like their only choice is between being part of their own family or an outsider in it. That not automatically giving kids their father’s name is very rarely considered. That when a woman hyphenates, their husband often does not. That “it was really important to my husband” is considered a good enough reason for any and all of this. That men are never expected to make sacrifices for their relationships with women the way that women are expected to make sacrifices for their relationships with men. That we are all supposed to pretend that the convention of a woman surrendering her legal identity upon marriage has nothing to do with the fact that women are paid less, violated more, and generally considered less valuable and less human than men.
All I am really saying, I suppose, is that choice feminism should only, only only be about supporting individual human beings without being judgy jerks toward them. It should not be about shutting down the conversation on why certain practices have been—and continue to be— deeply disturbing. Because, unfortunately, I see that happening a lot. And that is nothing but a victory for a misogynistic system that seeks to silence us, confuse us, shut us down, and make us attack one another instead of looking at the real problem. I will never judge or criticize individuals for the choices that they make, even if I find them problematic. If, however, specific social issues and practices come up in conversation, I am sure as fuck going to continue to speak my mind.
That is my choice.
This.
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These dudes are fucking legit. They don’t just show up one day in court, either, they actually make friends with the kids and let them know they have a support system and that there are people in the world who care about them and will always have their back. And less important, but also cool, is that the few times a couple of them have come into my cafe, they’ve been super friendly and polite and when I told one of the guys that I noticed his Bikers Against Child Abuse patch and wanted him to know how awesome I thought he was because of it, he got kind of shy and blushed and said, “The kids are the awesome ones, we just let them know they’re allowed to be brave.”
The source is long, but so, so good. These men and women are available in 36 states, 24 hours a day to stand guard at home, in court, at school, even if the child has a nightmare. Many of them are survivors of childhood abuse as well, and know what it’s like to feel scared and alone.
In court that day, the judge asked the boy, “Are you afraid?” No, the boy said.
Pipes says the judge seemed surprised, and asked, “Why not?”
The boy glanced at Pipes and the other bikers sitting in the front row, two more standing on each side of the courtroom door, and told the judge, “Because my friends are scarier than he is.”
Actual tears.. hnngh
Show me more of people like this, world. I give up on humans too easily.
where do i sign up for this,i want to be in this gang
This is fucking amazing. It may be out of character for me to say this but rock on
Bikers Against Child Abuse was founded in 1995 by a Native American child psychologist whose ride name is Chief, when he came across a young boy who had been subjected to extreme abuse and was too afraid to leave his house. He called the boy to reach out to him, but the only thing that seemed to interest the child was Chief’s bike. Soon, some 20 bikers went to the boy’s neighborhood and were able to draw him out of his house for the first time in weeks.
Chief’s thesis was that a child who has been abused by an adult can benefit psychologically from the presence of even more intimidating adults that they know are on their side. “When we tell a child they don’t have to be afraid, they believe us,” Arizona biker Pipes told azcentral.com. “When we tell them we will be there for them, they believe us.”
( Article)More about BACA, from their site
My parents are a part of this organization and they are metal af
They go on runs to protect the child if they feel even the slightest threatened no matter where. If the child needs them to go on vacation with them, they do. Bikers come from across the nation to watch over and take shifts for these kids. And the best part is once you’re adopted into this family as a BACA kid, you’re always one. Even when you’re 40 and the perp gets released from jail, they’ll come meet with you and find your best options for avoiding the person and maintaining the life you’ve built for yourself. Once a BACA child, always a BACA child. In Florida, there’s 100% rate for identifying the perp based on the child’s testimony. Why? Because BACA stands with the child and supports the child so they feel comfortable enough to point out their attacker.
What’s better than a badass biker gang being on your side???NATIVE AMERICAN CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST WHO IS A BIKER AND NAMED HIMSELF CHIEF HELL YES I’M HERE FOR THAT AND BIKERS BEING BAD ASS TO PROTECT KIDS. HELL YEAH.
it’s back! I will always reblog BACA
Damn good people.
I know they wouldn’t consider themselves such, but these people are freaking heroes and the world is a better place because of them.
Hey folks, it talks about this in the article but its not mentioned in this post, BACA is a 501 © (3) charity that depends in part on donations to help pay for stuff like gas for their bikes. If you want to help, consider donating.
@copperbadge You like posting about heroes, Sam. Seems like this would be up your alley.
I love these folks! I’ve reblogged them before but it’s wonderful to see the donation information has been added.
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Abdul Sattar Edhi, is a prominent Pakistani philanthropist, social activist, and humanitarian. He is the founder and head of the Edhi Foundation, a non-profit social welfare organisation in Pakistan.
Edhi has remained a simple and humble man. To this day, he only owns a couple pairs of clothes, has never taken a salary from his organisation and lives in a small two bedroom apartment over his clinic in Karachi. He has been recommended for a Nobel Peace prize by the Prime Minister of Pakistan.
Edhi Foundation also runs the world’s largest ambulance service and operates free nursing homes, orphanages, clinics, women’s shelters, and rehab centres for drug addicts and mentally ill individuals. It has run relief operations in Africa, Middle East, the Caucasus region, eastern Europe and the U.S. where it provided aid following the New Orleans hurricane of 2005.
“Every day before school, my mother would give me two paisa and say, ‘Spend one paisa on yourself and give the other away,’” Edhi remembers. “When I came home, she would ask me where I had given away my one paisa. It was her way of creating an awareness in me of the need for social welfare.” [x]
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Communing with the Great Bluebird. From the moleskine. Inspired by the poetic visual narratives of Kenneth Patchen and, in stranger ways, @kidclampdown. #mattkish #mattkishart #moleskine #sketchbook #bluebird #bird
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GUYS???????
THIS IS FUCKING 23H AGO PLEASE DONT JUST LIKE THIS,
HERE IS THE NATIONAL SEX TRAFFICKING NUMBER FOR THE US; +1 (888) 373-7888 I RECOMMEND YOU CALL THEM IMMEDIATELY
THEY REALLY SAID DIAL 911 IF ITS AN EMERGENCY WHAT/?
I just looked up her username to see if she was ok, and her snapchat story was updated an hour ago to say “kennedi will be fine with me, she will come home next month or during the summertime” wtf.
i just saw and im so scared??? what the fuck is happening??
guys please make this post more widely known!!!! i dont live in the US, i dont think there’s much i can do but im begging you to all reblog this!!
-mod jack ❄❄❄
I ALSO WOULD LIKE TO SAY I TEXTED HER SNAPCHAT AND THERE WAS NO REPLY, BUT IT SAYS IT WAS OPENED
so this is real?
why would u think it’s not real?
wtf has anyone contacted snapchat about this?
Okay I went and checked this out because I wasn’t sure how old it was. The “she’ll be fine with me” update was 7 HOURS AGO. it is 12:55am EST on March 12, 2017 right now. her name is Kennedi High, she’s 16, from Baltimore, autistic, and the authorities believe she may be in California. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST THIS ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE FOLLOWERS FROM BALTIMORE AND CALI. SHE HAS BEEN MISSING FOR ALMOST FOUR DAYS AND MAY HAVE ALREADY BEEN SOLD AND/OR TRANSFERRED ELSEWHERE.
ALSO: if you decide to add the account to look at the message in her story for yourself, please BLOCK the account IMMEDIATELY afterwards. They have already been reported to Snapchat HQ, and blocking will keep the traffickers from being able to find you, as long as you do it pretty much as soon as you see it.
PLEASE SPREAD THIS!!!! ANY BALTIMORE FRIENDS PLEASE CALL BPD!!!
Here’s a link to the news: http://foxbaltimore.com/news/local/missing-16-year-old-girl-believed-to-be-in-baltimore
A missing 16-year-old girl was last seen in the area of Falls Road and Hillside Road around 3 p.m. on March 8, police confirm.
According to police, Kennedi High was last seen wearing black pants, a white shirt, a black puff coat, black Ugg boots and red glasses. The National Center For Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) released two photos of the missing teen on Thursday, noting that she was still believed to be in the Baltimore area.
High is described as being 5’7” tall and approximately 120 pounds.
Here’s what she looks like to keep an eye out BALTIMORE COUNTY!!!
Anyone in this area please look out!
Signal boost this! This is current information.
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